Once informed that John had died, we attempted to assist in terms of getting his body released from the morgue in Bangkok.
The police would not release the remains for cremation because John had not signed a next of kin statement in the event of his death.
Had John and New been married then this, of course, would have been no problem. But New is transgender and so officially had no legal relationship with John.
New suggested that we used John’s address book to contact his living family in the UK. New stressed that despite living together for many years, John had never ‘come out’ to his family nor told the truth to them about New’s gender.
We had been provided with a standard release form by Siam Funerals (link opens to Facebook page)
With the assistance of the British Embassy (link opens to Facebook page), we endeavoured to get a release form signed by John’s brother who was very reluctant, fearing that he might be liable for some costs.
Ultimately, John’s brother agreed to sign the form and we were able to assist New in creating John, following his instructions to Fr. David.
John’s Funeral took place at the Buddist Temple in Pattaya.