11th Sunday after Pentecost – 8th August 2021

10th Sunday after Trinity

19th Sunday in Ordinary Time

Proper 14

Year B – Track 2


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All are requested to join in wherever text is GREEN or when instructed by Fr. David.

Where the ✝ is shown, all are encouraged to make the sign of the cross.

Where the ✊ is shown all are encouraged to strike their breast with a closed hand following the actions of Fr. David.

Where the ✋ is shown all are encouraged to tap their breast with an open hand following the actions of Fr. David.

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Alleluia, sing to Jesus,
His the sceptre, his the throne;
Alleluia, his the triumph,
His the victory alone:
Hark, the songs of peaceful Zion
Thunder like a mighty flood;
Jesus, out of every nation,
Hath redeemed us by his blood.

Alleluia,, Bread of Angels,
Thou on earth our food, our stay;
Alleluia, here the sinful
Flee to thee from day to day;
Intercessor, Friend of sinners,
Earth’s Redeemer, plead for me,
Where the songs of all the sinless
Sweep across the crystal sea.

Alleluia, King eternal,
Thee the Lord of lords we own;
Alleluia, born of Mary,
Earth thy footstool, heaven thy throne:
Thou within the veil hast entered,
Robed in flesh, our great High Priest;
Thou on earth both Priest and Victim
In the Eucharistic Feast.

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Blessed be God: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. ✝

And blessed be his kingdom, now and forever. Amen


From Easter to Pentecost:

Allelulia. Christ is risen!

The Lord is risen indeed. Alleluia


In Lent and other penitential occasions:

Bless the Lord who forgives all our sins;

His mercy endures for ever.

The Lord be with you.

And also with you.


Let us pray:

Almighty God, to whom all hearts be open, all desires known and from whom no secrets are hidden: cleanse the thoughts of our hearts by the inspiration of your Holy Spirit, that we may perfectly love you, and worthily magnify your holy name, through Christ our Lord.  Amen.

Lord, have mercy.

Christ, have mercy.

Lord, have mercy.

This prayer is omitted during Lent and Advent:

Glory to God in the highest, and peace to God’s people on earth.  Lord God, heavenly King, almighty God and Father, we worship you, we give you thanks, we praise you for your glory.  Lord Jesus Christ, only Son of the Father, Lord God, Lamb of God, you take away the sin of the world: have mercy on us; you are seated at the right hand of the Father: receive our prayer. For you alone are the Holy One, you alone are the Lord, you alone are the Most High, Jesus Christ, with the Holy Spirit, in the glory of God the Father.  Amen.

 Holy God, holy and mighty ✝, holy and immortal, have mercy on us.

Grant to us, Lord, we pray, the spirit to think and do always those things that are right, that we, who cannot exist without you, may by you be enabled to live according to your will; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.


A Reading from the book of:

1 Kings

Elijah went a day’s journey into the wilderness, and came and sat down under a solitary broom tree. He asked that he might die: “It is enough; now, O Lord, take away my life, for I am no better than my ancestors.” Then he lay down under the broom tree and fell asleep. Suddenly an angel touched him and said to him, “Get up and eat.” He looked, and there at his head was a cake baked on hot stones, and a jar of water. He ate and drank, and lay down again. The angel of the Lord came a second time, touched him, and said, “Get up and eat, otherwise the journey will be too much for you.” He got up, and ate and drank; then he went in the strength of that food forty days and forty nights to Horeb the mount of God.

The Psalm

This is the Word of the Lord.

Thanks be to God

Psalm 34:1-8

Benedicam Dominum

I will bless the Lord at all times; *
his praise shall ever be in my mouth.

2 I will glory in the Lord; *
let the humble hear and rejoice.

3 Proclaim with me the greatness of the Lord; *
let us exalt his Name together.

4 I sought the Lord, and he answered me *
and delivered me out of all my terror.

5 Look upon him and be radiant, *
and let not your faces be ashamed.

6 I called in my affliction and the Lord heard me *
and saved me from all my troubles.

7 The angel of the Lord encompasses those who fear him, *
and he will deliver them.

8 Taste and see that the Lord is good; *
happy are they who trust in him!

A Reading from the book of


Putting away falsehood, let all of us speak the truth to our neighbors, for we are members of one another. Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not make room for the devil. Thieves must give up stealing; rather let them labor and work honestly with their own hands, so as to have something to share with the needy. Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with which you were marked with a seal for the day of redemption. Put away from you all bitterness and wrath and anger and wrangling and slander, together with all malice, and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you. Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children, and live in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

This is the Word of the Lord.

Thanks be to God

All stand for the Acclamation and Gospel reading.

Alleluia!  Alleluia!

I am the living bread which has come down from heaven,

says the Lord.

Anyone who eats this bread will live for ever.


The Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ according to:



Then the Jews began to complain about him because he said, “I am the bread that came down from heaven.” They were saying, “Is not this Jesus, the son of Joseph, whose father and mother we know? How can he now say, ‘I have come down from heaven’?” Jesus answered them, “Do not complain among yourselves. No one can come to me unless drawn by the Father who sent me; and I will raise that person up on the last day. It is written in the prophets, ‘And they shall all be taught by God.’ Everyone who has heard and learned from the Father comes to me. Not that anyone has seen the Father except the one who is from God; he has seen the Father. Very truly, I tell you, whoever believes has eternal life. I am the bread of life. Your ancestors ate the manna in the wilderness, and they died. This is the bread that comes down from heaven, so that one may eat of it and not die. I am the living bread that came down from heaven. Whoever eats of this bread will live forever; and the bread that I will give for the life of the world is my flesh.”

After the Gospel reading

This is the Gospel of the Lord.

Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ

Let’s begin today with a familiar verse from Deuteronomy; it’s not in today’s lectionary readings, but it lies behind this whole series we’ve been hearing from John’s gospel.  It also shows up in the temptations stories in Matthew and Luke, and is tied to the reading from the 1st Book of Kings.  Moses is giving the Law to Israel, and Moses says to the people that God “humbled you by letting you hunger, then by feeding you with manna, with which neither you nor your ancestors were acquainted, in order to make you understand that one does not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of the Lord.”  We know this verse, especially the punch line, very well.  But the more we consider the logic of these words, the more interesting it becomes.

How would you do it?  How would you teach someone that we do not live by bread alone?  What would you give someone to make them understand this?  Our first thought would probably be to give them a sermon, or a lecture, or to try to arrange a spiritual experience.   Or maybe to offer a really spiffy adult education class, with professional videos and worksheets, and breaking into small groups to go over some discussion questions – maybe that would do it. How about it? What would you give someone, so they could understand that we do not live by bread alone?  Try telling that to the thousands who are going hungry here in Pattaya due to the Covid pandemic!

What God gave Elijah, and the people in the wilderness, and what Jesus gave the crowd in John’s gospel, was bread.  Manna was bread, or enough like bread to make no real difference. Elijah got ordinary bread.  They ate it, and it kept them alive.  They couldn’t live without it.  But isn’t that peculiar?  Why give bread to make people understand that they do not live by bread alone?  Of all the things to give, why give the one thing that seems to prove that you can live by bread alone: namely, bread?

And yet, this may have been the most important part of the whole business of Israel’s being in the wilderness, of their being formed as the people of God.  Jesus may have seen this as vitally important to his mission.

Because if the folks couldn’t get this – if they couldn’t figure out what was going on with the manna, or with the miraculous feeding, if they couldn’t understand about the loaves – well, then, it was all pretty much hopeless.

The key to all of this is that God gave Israel and Elijah – and Jesus gave that crowd – bread in such a way that it was obvious that the bread was pure gift.  They didn’t make it, they didn’t work for it, they couldn’t pay for it – it was just there.  So they had the chance to look at bread, at the stuff of life, with clarity; and to see beyond that thing, and to see that this vital stuff was also, and centrally a gift from God, and so a sign of God’s love, and of God’s call to relationship with them. Since it was so clearly a gift, they were able to see that the thing, the bread, meant more than what it was all by itselfAll real gifts do.  Always remember, it’s the thought that counts!

But if the manna, if the bread on the hillside, if the stuff that God gives us so that we can live, if this is given to us, not just to keep us alive, but also to draw us to God, and to life with God, then we do not, and we cannot, live by bread alone.  So, oddly, the only gift that can really show us that we do not live by bread alone is free bread.  Anything less vital, anything less essential, would allow us to cling to life for its own sake, and so make all questions of meaning secondary, and avoidable. This is still going on, and even now God gives us life, and the stuff of life, not because life is the most important thing in the world for us, but just exactly because it is not.  We are given these as gifts, to help us realize that God, and life with God, are most important.

We see this with special clarity at the altar, where the bread we receive is clearly not about itself alone; but is hooked to something much greater.  So we can look with awe and reverence upon something as simple as this thin, tasteless wafer, because we know it to be sign, symbol and presence of something much greater than flour and water.

But the deepest sign, symbol and presence of something much greater is not just this bread; it is everything we have!

Part of the point of this bread, the bread of the Eucharist, is to teach us that we do not live by bread alone.  This bread is special, so that we can understand that all bread, all that we have, all that is necessary for life, that this, too, is special.  It’s all given to us as a sign, symbol and occasion of God’s love.  It’s here to draw us past itself, and past ourselves, so that we, seeing both the gift and the giver, will respond to the giver in love, and in service.  Creation, all of creation, is sacramental in this sense!

So it all gets jumbled up.  The bread we eat every day, and Israel’s manna in the wilderness, and Jesus being the bread of life, and our weekly Eucharist – they all run together.

Here is one way into this.  There’s an old rabbinic admonition that insists, of anything and everything, “If you don’t give thanks for it, it’s bad for you.” The food you eat, the clothes you wear, the air you breathe, the people and the things of your life, if you don’t give thanks for it, it’s bad for you!

So, if you have enough to eat, and the strength to go on for another day, and people who care about you, if you have all of that, and you don’t give thanks for it, then it’s bad for you – all of it!

It’s poisoning your soul, and shrinking your lifeReally.

That’s because giving thanks for something puts it in its proper place, it places the thing as part of our relationship with God, and God’s relationship with us.  That’s where things, all things, properly belong. Anything, especially bread, is understood properly only when it is understood in relationship to God!

On the other hand, if we do give thanks for it, then it can be good for us.   If we give thanks for it, then every part of our lives can draw us toward the only source of meaning and hope that makes any sense!

It’s very easy to forget this.  It’s very easy to value the things of creation, and of our lives for themselves, to take them outside the context of a relationship with God.  When we do this, when we see only what is right in front of us and no more, then we are impoverished, we are barely living on the surface of our lives, and of our world!

That’s what it means to live by bread alone.  To live by bread alone means to see no further than the things themselves, and so to miss the presence and the love, and the call of God that are really a part of every piece of bread we have.  It’s to miss the gift, and the love behind the gift.   Remember, it’s the thought that counts!

So God gave Elijah and Israel bread, and Jesus gave the crowds on those mountainsides bread, and God gives us bread – God gives us all we need for life – so that we may be drawn beyond all of these, and see more than we would see otherwise, so that we might understand that we do not live by bread alone.   Amen

Please stand for the Nicene Creed.

Let us together affirm the faith of the Church. ✝

We believe in one God,

the Father, the Almighty,

maker of heaven and earth,

of all that is, seen and unseen.

We believe in one Lord, Jesus Christ,

the only Son of God,

eternally begotten of the Father,

God from God, Light from Light,

true God from true God,

begotten, not made,

of one Being with the Father.

Through him all things were made.

For us and for our salvation

he came down from heaven:

was incarnate of the Holy Spirit and the Virgin Mary,

and became truly human.

For our sake he was crucified under Pontius Pilate;

he suffered death and was buried.

On the third day he rose again

in accordance with the Scriptures;

he ascended into heaven

and is seated at the right hand of the Father.

He will come again in glory to judge the living and the dead, and his kingdom will have no end.

We believe in the Holy Spirit, the Lord, the giver of life,

who proceeds from the Father and the Son, who with the Father and the Son is worshipped and glorified,

who has spoken through the prophets.

We believe in one holy catholic and apostolic Church.

We acknowledge one baptism for the forgiveness of sins.

We look for the resurrection of the dead,

✝ and the life of the world to come.  Amen.

PROPER 14 – YEAR B – p88

11th Sunday after Pentecost

19th Sunday in Ordinary Time

Let us pray to the Father through the Son, in whom he has been revealed.

Cleanse the church from all malice and dissension…Grant to your people the unity of purpose that will spread peace to others…Give to those you have called into your service grace to be ministers of the Bread of Life.

We pray for the welfare of your church here on earth;  guide and govern it by your Spirit,  so that all Christians may be led in the way of truth,  and hold the faith in unity of spirit, in the bond of peace, and in righteousness of life.

We ask your blessing on +Vsevolod our Bishop,  on this, our parish of St. George – for its work,  its worship and its witness.  We pray particularly for Fr. David in his ministry to us,  and for all members of our congregation,  be they near or far.

1 Lord in your mercy – Hear our prayer.

Look with compassion on the world,  where anger so often prevails over love, where false speech, and evil word’s destroy human relationships…May all know the peace that is in Christ, through his death, for the life of the world.

We pray for the leaders of all the nations of this world,  most particularly for the King and Government of Thailand at this time of unrest,  and also in the countries from which we come, and for all the people in countries that have had problems of any kind during this past week.

We pray for Muk-da-han Church which was recently burned to the ground.  In particular we pray for, Arjarn Sim and her husband.

Grant wisdom to all those in authority in every land,  and give to all people a desire for righteousness and peace,  the will to work together in trust,  to seek the common good,  and to share with justice and equity the limited resources of the earth.

2 Lord in your mercy – Hear our prayer.

In all our words, to families and friends, to neighbours and colleagues, help us to speak gently and with understanding…Bring reconciliation whereever in this community fellowship has been broken.

We pray for all who are prevented from,  or persecuted for practising their faith,  wherever they may beWe pray for our fellow Christians, both here in Thailand,  and also in our own home countries.

3 Lord in your mercy – Hear our prayer.

We pray for all those who suffer in body,  mind and spirit;  the sick;  the poor;  the depressed;  the lonely;  the unloved;  the persecuted;  the unemployed and those who care for them. Those who grieve;  and those who have nobody to pray for them.

4 Lord in your mercy – Hear our prayer.

Have mercy on those whose lives are twisted by bitterness….All who cannot forgive others, or cannot find freedom from personal guilt…Relieve them with the knowledge of your redeeming love.

We remember all those who have been touched by the COVID 19 pandemic;  particularly here in Pattai-Ya,  where so many lives and livelihoods have been destroyed;   and where there is such heavy dependence on the hotel, hospitality and tourist industry,  now given added urgency as the outbreak continues to  increase in severity. We pray for the on-going vaccination programme here in Thailand,  that greater numbers might be safeguarded more speedily,  and then be spared  the worst  of the unpleasant side-effects.

Amongst the sick we remember;

Fr. Tom, Brian, Kyoko, Alex, Colin, Mavis, Patricia,  Eric, Kent, Graham, Elizabeth, Conrad, Jun and any others known personally to each and every one of us…

5 Lord in your mercy – Hear our prayer.

According to your promise, grant eternal life to those who have died in the faith of Christ…As they were strengthened by the Bread of Life in this world, grant them everlasting refreshments in your heavenly Kingdom.

We bring to you all who have died in the hope of the resurrection,   especially the millions who have perished in the COVID pandemic – for David, and for all those known personally to us, collectively or individually…

We remember also Brett, and all those whose anniversary falls at this time, who we have known and loved…(1, 2, 3)

Give them joy in the fellowship of the heavenly church,  where Christ reigns for ever.

6 Lord in your mercy – Hear our prayer.

[FR. DAVID] – We pray through Christ, who has called us to himself, and will raise us up to eternal life.

Grant that what we have asked in faith we may by your grace receive, through Jesus Christ our Lord.



God is steadfast in love and infinite in mercy, welcoming sinners and inviting them to the Lord’s table.

Let us confess our sins in penitence and faith, confident in God’s forgiveness.

Merciful God, our maker and our judge, we have sinned against you in thought, word and deed, and in what we have failed to do: we have not loved you with our whole heart; we have not loved our neighbours as ourselves; we repent and are sorry ✊ for all ✊ our sins ✊, Father forgive us, strengthen us to love and obey you in newness of life; through Jesus Christ our Lord.  Amen

**(Note: all are encouraged to strike their breast 3 times following the lead of Fr. David as he utters the words: ‘sorry for all our sins’)**

Almighty God, who has promised forgiveness to all who turn to him in faith, pardon you ✝ and set you free from all your sins, strengthen you in all goodness and keep you in eternal life, through Jesus Christ our Lord.  Amen.


The congregation stands.

We are the Body of Christ.

His Spirit is with us.


The peace of the Lord be always with you.

And also with you.

Please greet each other with a sign of peace.

All creatures of our God and King,
Lift up your voice and with us sing
Alleluia, alleluia!
Thou burning sun with golden beam,
Thou silver moon with softer gleam:
O praise him, O praise him,
Alleluia, alleluia, alleluia!

Thou rushing wind that art so strong,
Ye clouds that sail in heaven along,
O praise him, Alleluia!
Thou rising morn, in praise rejoice,
Ye lights of evening, find a voice:
Dear mother earth, who day by day
Unfoldest blessings on our way,
O praise him, Alleluia!
The flowers and fruits that in thee grow,
Let them his glory also show:

Let all things their Creator bless,
And worship him in humbleness,
O praise him, Alleluia!
Praise, praise the Father, praise the Son,
And praise the Spirit, three in One:

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Blessed are you, God of all creation. Through your goodness we have these gifts to share. Accept and use our offerings for your glory and the service of your kingdom.

Blessed be God forever.

 Let us pray

We do not presume to come to your table, merciful Lord, trusting in our own righteousness, but in your manifold and great mercies.  We are not worthy so much as to gather up the crumbs under your table, but you are the same Lord whose nature is always to have mercy. Grant us, therefore, gracious Lord, so to eat the flesh of your dear son Jesus Christ, and to drink his blood, that we may evermore dwell in him and he in us.  Amen.


The Lord be with you.

and also with you.

Lift up your hearts.

We lift them to the Lord.

Let us give thanks to the Lord our God.

It is right to give thanks and praise.

Father, we give you thanks and praise through your beloved Son Jesus Christ, your living Word, through whom you have created all things; who was sent by you in your great goodness to be our Saviour.

By the power of the Holy Spirit he took flesh; as your Son, born of the blessed Virgin, he lived on earth and went about among us; he opened wide his arms for us on the cross; he put an end to death by dying for us; and revealed the resurrection by rising to new life; so he fulfilled your will and won for you a holy people.

Proper Preface

Therefore with angels and archangels, and with all the company of heaven, we proclaim your great and glorious name, for ever praising you and saying:

Holy, holy, holy Lord God of power and might, heaven and earth are full of your glory.

Hosanna in the highest. ✝  Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.  Hosanna in the highest.

Lord, you are holy indeed, the source of all holiness; grant that by the power of your Holy Spirit, and according to your holy will, these gifts of bread and wine may be to us the body and blood of our Lord Jesus Christ; who, in the same night that he was betrayed, took bread and gave you thanks; he broke it and gave it to his disciples, saying: Take, eat; this is my body ✝ which is given for you; do this in remembrance of me.

In the same way, after supper he took the cup and gave you thanks; he gave it to them, saying: Drink this, all of you; this is my blood ✝ of the new covenant,

which is shed for you and for many for the forgiveness of sins. Do this, as often as you drink it,

in remembrance of me.

Great is the mystery of faith:

Christ has died:

Christ is risen:

Christ will come again.

And so, Father, calling to mind his death on the cross, his perfect sacrifice, made once for the sins of the whole world; rejoicing in his mighty resurrection and glorious ascension, and looking for his coming in glory, we celebrate this memorial of our redemption.

As we offer you this our sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving, we bring before you this bread and this cup and we thank you for counting us worthy to stand in your presence and serve you. Send the Holy Spirit on your people and gather into one in your kingdom all who share this one bread and one cup, so that we, in the company of [N and] all the saints, may praise and glorify you for ever, through Jesus Christ our Lord; by whom, and with whom, and in whom, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, all honour and glory be yours, almighty Father, for ever and ever.


Let us pray with confidence to the Father, as our Saviour has taught us:

Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name; thy kingdom come; thy will be done; on earth as it is in heaven.  Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, the power and the glory, for ever and ever. Amen.

O Lamb of God, who takes away the sins of the world, have mercy on us.  

O Lamb of God, who takes away the sins of the world, have mercy on us.

O Lamb of God, who takes away the sins of the world, grant us peace.

**(Note:  All are encouraged to tap their breast three times following the example of Fr. David as he utters the words ‘…have mercy, …have mercy and …grant us peace’)**

We break this bread to share in the body of Christ.

Though we are many, we are one body, because we all share in one bread.

This is the Lamb of God ✝, who takes away the sins of the world;

Happy are those who are called to his supper.

Lord, I am not worthy ✊ to receive you, but only say the word and I shall be healed.

**(Note:  All are encouraged to strike breast following the example of Fr. David as all utter the words ‘not worthy’)** 

After Communion the celebrant and the congregation say


Let us pray.

Father of all we give you thanks and praise that when we were still far off you met us in your Son and brought us home. Dying and living, he declared your love, gave us grace, and opened the gate of glory. May we who share Christ’s body live his risen life; we who drink his cup bring life to others; we whom the Spirit lights give light to the world. 

Keep us in this hope that we have grasped; so we and all your children shall be free, and the whole earth live to praise your name.

Father, we offer ourselves to you as a living sacrifice through Jesus Christ our Lord. Send us out in the power of your Spirit to live and work to your praise and glory.

The peace of God, which passes all understanding, keep your hearts and minds in the knowledge and love of God, and of his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord: and the blessing of God almighty, the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit ✝, be amongst you and remain with you always.


Go in peace to love and serve the Lord:

In the name of Christ.  Amen.

David Collier

Dave was born in Coventry and spoke about growing up surrounded by bomb craters, after the city was flattened in the Blitz, and then seeing the place rebuilt in his youth.

He owned businesses in England, got married, had two sons and even though the marriage was failing, he stuck around for the boys and his ex-wife, trying always to do the right thing.  He was there until the boys were old enough to cope, and then walked away with cash in his pocket, and nothing more.

He lost touch with his former existence, and also his sons, but his view was pragmatic.  Life sometimes is unfair.

That was a long time ago now, and subsequently, Dave reskilled as a commercial pipe fitter, earning more money than he knew what to do with, so he started travelling.  Dave loved travelling, spending time both in South America and also in Sri Lanka before, 17 years ago, settling finally in Thailand.

He opened what was to become a thriving business – the Robin Hood pub here in Pattaya, and it was then he met his future wife; Lat.

During the ups and downs of the last 17 years, after the Robin Hood, Dave then had another bar around by Soi Welcome, before finally opening ‘Latitude’, where he finally passed away from the effects of bone cancer.

It is fair to say that I did not know Dave for very long – in fact for only a little over a month before he died.  I met him lying on a bed; suffering in the very worst of conditions.

During that time his friends stuck by him, some visiting more often than others.  Nearly everyone made it to a living ‘wake’, which was held just a few weeks ago.  Dave liked the idea of seeing all his friends at one and the same time.  Food and drinks were laid on, and it was a wonderful opportunity for everyone there to say ‘goodbye’, personally, and to his face.

As it happened, on that day a Hospital bed arrived;  everyone rallied around to help get this into the bar, and then Dave was transferred from the old one to this very much more comfortable replacement, much better suited to his progressively deteriorating condition.

I have been in touch with as many of his friends as possible, in order to try to get a measure of this incredible man, and been sent anecdotes describing him as very obliging, helping someone escape and move on from domestic violence – generous both with his time and his money.

One person said that in Dave’s bar there was always free food for the regulars, who might well not have had money to buy lunch, and he was a very good cook!

Dave was always the life and soul of the party, and when there was nothing really to celebrate, he would make up something to get things going.  He so enjoyed a good joke!

Dave did not wish to cause any trouble or to be a burden to anyone.

One thing which Dave was not – he was not afraid of his impending demise!

I had several conversations with him about what he wanted to happen after he was gone; he had clarity and grace; despite being in excruciating pain for so much of the time.

He was not afraid of judgement, or of being wrong!

He was not afraid of friendship, a bad joke, or a good laugh!

He was not afraid of a good time, or bad timing, or of consequences.

No matter how hard human existence was to him, Dave loved life to the full.  He embraced it without reservation, regret or remorse….and that is rare indeed!

It is a great pity more people are not afraid, just like Dave, and I hope very much that it will be some considerable time before all my memories of him start to fade.

Death for Dave was a merciful release, and was far too long in coming –  he had suffered more than enough.

He leaves behind his wife of 17 years; Lat.

I had a chance to speak to Dave about what he would like to be included in this service, and we settled on this poem:


Not – How did he die?  But – How did he live?
Not – What did he gain?  But – What did he give?

These are the things that measure the worth
Of a man as a man, regardless of birth.

Not – What was his station?  But – had he a heart?
And – How did he play his God-given part?

Was he ever ready with a word of good cheer?
To bring back a smile, to banish a tear?

Not – What was his church?  Not – What was his creed?
But – Had he befriended those really in need?

Not – What did the obituary in the newspaper say?
But – How many were sorry when he passed away?

These are the things that measure the worth
Of a man as a man, regardless of birth.

What more could any of us wish?

The Gathering

We meet in the name of Jesus Christ,

who died and was raised to the glory of God the Father.

We join with those in every place

in remembering before God our brother/sister N;

to give thanks for his/her life;

to commend him/her to God our merciful redeemer and judge;

to commit his/her body to the flames,

and to comfort one another in our grief.

God of all consolation,

your Son Jesus Christ was moved to tears

at the grave of Lazarus his friend.

Look with compassion on your children in their loss;

give to troubled hearts the light of hope

and strengthen in us the gift of faith,

in Jesus Christ our Lord.

All   Amen.

Almighty God,

you judge us with infinite mercy and justice

and love everything you have made.

In your mercy

turn the darkness of death into the dawn of new life,

and the sorrow of parting into the joy of heaven;

through our Saviour, Jesus Christ.

All   Amen.

The Thanksgiving


O God, we thank you for the life of your servant………..

For the example of service and dedication, and the friendship which he/she extended to so many.

For his/her zest for life and courage in the face of adversity.

We thank you that he/she has now been relieved of the burden of earthly suffering, and pray that he/she may now be numbered with your Saints in Light.

We ask this in the name of your son, Jesus Christ, our Lord.  Amen


For those who mourn


ALMIGHTY God, Father of all mercies and giver of all comfort; Deal graciously, we pray thee, with those who mourn, that casting every care on you, they may know the consolation of your love ; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

Abide with me, fast falls the eventide;
The darkness deepens; Lord, with me abide!
When other helpers fail and comforts flee,
Help of the helpless, O abide with me.

Swift to its close ebbs out life’s little day;
Earth’s joys grow dim, its glories pass away;
Change and decay in all around I see;
O thou who changest not, abide with me.

I need thy presence every passing hour;
What but thy grace can foil the tempter’s power?
Who like thyself my guide and stay can be?
Through cloud and sunshine, O abide with me.

Hold thou thy cross before my closing eyes;
Shine through the gloom and point me to the skies:
Heaven’s morning breaks and earth’s vain shadows flee;
In life, in death, O Lord, abide with me.

♫♫ Scroll to the bottom of the page for the media player where you can hear the music and practice your singing. ♫♫


Here is the music for this week’s hymns, if you would like to practice beforehand.

Performed by Fr. David Price

NOTE: The introductory music is Finale on ‘Hyfrydol’ – Colman